The beginning of a new relationship comes with lots of uncertainty.
So many thoughts and questions go through your head:
"There is still so much I don't know about this person."
"Are they into me?"
"Am I into them?"
"Are we going to be compatible?"
"Do we want the same things?
"Can I trust them?"
All that uncertainty brings up anxious feelings, which leads to:
🤳 Wanting to text them again when you don’t hear back right away.
😟 Constantly scanning for any signs that they might be losing interest in you.
🕵 Playing “detective” to try to figure out what their behavior means.
💔 Feeling worried that any small incompatibility means the relationship might not work.
Even in the face of all that uncertainty, a different experience is possible.
Imagine feeling calm and secure in your relationship instead.
Imagine...
🧘 Being able to talk yourself through anxious moments, so they pass quickly instead of consuming you.
💪 Having the confidence, courage, and skills to bring up any concern you have in your relationship, so you can communicate through it instead of being stuck waiting and wondering.
👩❤️💋👨 Being able to relax, be present, and enjoy your relationship instead of feeling you have to constantly scan for danger.
😌 Feeling comfortable with space between you and your partner, so you don’t have to fear it or avoid it.
Take a moment to consider how all of that would feel in your body.
Ahhhh.
Wouldn't that be a relief?
I can help you feel that.
The beginning of a new relationship comes with lots of uncertainty.
So many thoughts and questions go through your head:
"There is still so much I don't know about this person."
"Are they into me?"
"Am I into them?"
"Are we going to be compatible?"
"Do we want the same things?
"Can I trust them?"
All that uncertainty brings up anxious feelings, which leads to:
🤳 Wanting to text them again when you don’t hear back right away.
😟 Constantly scanning for any signs that they might be losing interest in you.
🕵 Playing “detective” to try to figure out what their behavior means.
💔 Feeling worried that any small incompatibility means the relationship might not work.
Even in the face of all that uncertainty, a different experience is possible.
Imagine feeling calm and secure in your relationship instead.
Imagine...
🧘 Being able to talk yourself through anxious moments, so they pass quickly instead of consuming you.
💪 Having the confidence, courage, and skills to bring up any concern you have in your relationship, so you can communicate through it instead of being stuck waiting and wondering.
👩❤️💋👨 Being able to relax, be present, and enjoy your relationship instead of feeling you have to constantly scan for danger.
😌 Feeling comfortable with space between you and your partner, so you don’t have to fear it or avoid it.
Take a moment to consider how all of that would feel in your body.
Ahhhh.
Wouldn't that be a relief?
I can help you feel that.
Hi, I'm Keriann!
As a person with an anxious attachment style myself, dating and relationships were challenging for me for most of my life.
That changed when I got really clear and intentional about what I wanted in a partner and figured out what I needed to do differently to feel more calm and secure in a relationship.
I tried a different approach - and it worked!
I found a partner who has a secure attachment style, and I learned how to manage my anxious feelings when they popped up.
I started thinking about my relationship from a new perspective that made me feel less anxious overall.
I learned how to share what I was feeling and ask for what I needed more effectively, instead of bottling everything up until I felt like I was going to explode.
All of this led to me feeling the most calm, secure, and satisfied that I ever have in a relationship.
It's my mission to help you feel that way, too. I want you to be able to enjoy everything that is wonderful about falling in love, and minimize the uncomfortable parts as much as possible.
In addition to my personal experience, I also bring over a decade of professional experience helping people with their relationships, first as a therapist, and now as a coach.
You don’t have to struggle through this alone. You can have a helpful guide who can get you where you want to be much faster and support you along the way.
Hi, I'm Keriann!
As a person with an anxious attachment style myself, dating and relationships were challenging for me for most of my life.
That changed when I got really clear and intentional about what I wanted in a partner and figured out what I needed to do differently to feel more calm and secure in a relationship.
I tried a different approach - and it worked!
I found a partner who has a secure attachment style, and I learned how to manage my anxious feelings when they popped up.
I started thinking about my relationship from a new perspective that made me feel less anxious overall.
I learned how to share what I was feeling and ask for what I needed more effectively, instead of bottling everything up until I felt like I was going to explode.
All of this led to me feeling the most calm, secure, and satisfied that I ever have in a relationship.
It's my mission to help you feel that way, too. I want you to be able to enjoy everything that is wonderful about falling in love, and minimize the uncomfortable parts as much as possible.
In addition to my personal experience, I also bring over a decade of professional experience helping people with their relationships, first as a therapist, and now as a coach.
You don’t have to struggle through this alone. You can have a helpful guide who can get you where you want to be much faster and support you along the way.
Clients Have Gone On To:
👰🤵 Choose someone who was very different from the type of person they had dated before, completely lose the drama that was typical in previous relationships, get married and start a family.
💍 Stop going from one short-term thing to the next with people who weren't a good match, finally find the right match, and get married.
😍 Find a committed partner and get married after years of being single and hung up on someone who wasn't willing to commit.
👩❤️💋👨 Enjoy a fun relationship with someone they have a lot in common with after painful previous relationships and a long time away from dating.
🧘 Shift from feeling anxious in their relationship to feeling calm, grounded, and more secure.
💡 Gain complete clarity about what they're looking for in a relationship and how to determine whether or not someone is a match for them.
Now it is your turn to get in on this goodness. 😉
What Clients Say About Working With Me:
AKD:
"Before working with Keriann, I was feeling anxious about the status of my relationship and unsure of the best way to communicate my feelings to my partner. I would get caught up in needing reassurance from him and also doing "detective work" to see how he felt about me, and also how other people felt about him and my relationship with him.
I am now feeling much more secure and confident in my relationship. I can express my needs when it's appropriate and I can also soothe myself. I am no longer as concerned about what other people think about him or our relationship. Whether or not this relationship works out, I have faith that I can take these skills I have learned into any relationship I have in the future.
My favorite part of working with Keriann is that she really understands what it is like to be dating right now. She understand the apps, the complexities of defining the relationship, etc. She brought her real world experience into our working relationship, which made me feel understood and less alone. I'm very grateful I had the opportunity to work with her!"
Jenna:
"Before we started working together, I was unsure about my new relationship since I wasn't accustomed to everything just being stable and fine. I'd followed Keriann's content on Instagram and learned about relationship green flags, and how to navigate dating so that my needs were met and I was matching up with the right people. I had a long history of self-sabotage and anxious attachment (i.e. clinginess to the point of pushing partners away and ruining otherwise good relationships), so I was feeling insecure about myself and focusing a lot on "I'm too [this and that]" instead of "what does this person offer me in a relationship?"
After our coaching sessions, I feel WAY more secure and sure of myself, and I don't budge on my requirements in a new relationship. I navigate dating easily, I don't feel like I "need" a partner and I'm taking much better care of myself. Furthermore, I realize that there's truly no such thing as "the one," therefore I don't latch on to people with iron grips -- instead, I let things happen fluidly.
My favorite part of working together was the relaxed, calm, and safe atmosphere. There's no judgement and I can mention anything, including asking questions about navigating sexual relationships. I'd highly recommend Keriann's coaching!"
"I found Keriann’s social media page after making it out of a very difficult relationship and wanting to learn more about my own attachment style and the ways in which to manage that in the context of dating again after a breakup. I was inspired to sign up for the coaching process immediately after our initial phone conversation during which I felt validated and understood, as Keriann’s warm and kind personality was readily apparent even on a quick phone call.
Going into coaching, I had experienced a series of tumultuous relationships with lots of arguing and built up resentment over time. I was fearful that I would not find a different way of relating to men romantically. Coaching with Keriann completely changed my thoughts and helped me work through these fears. By the end of the process, I felt much more confident in who I am as an individual and what I wanted from a romantic relationship as well as what I contribute to my relationships (both of which were difficult for me to identify prior to working with Keriann). Moreover, my work with Keriann helped me address some of my people pleasing tendencies, feel more confident in asking for my needs to be met, and feel more secure in my ability to make decisions about whether to pursue a relationship (or not). A final takeaway from my meetings with Keriann is an increased awareness around my attachment style and when my behaviors/reactions are stemming from my attachment and how to process and address that. Combined, these areas of learning, have increased my confidence in dating, and I now feel secure as I approach a variety of new dating situations. Dating feels less stressful and more fun and that feels like huge growth in my time working with Keriann.
Across the 3 months of coaching, I had many things that I enjoyed about working with Keriann. I always felt that she provided a nonjudgemental space to verbalize and talk through my feelings and figure out the root of them. Simultaneously, while always providing the security of understanding and kindness, she knew exactly the right moments to push me to try something that was slightly out of my comfort zone - and this was truly when I saw the most growth. The meetings always made me feel that I had a secure base to try new ways of relating to the men I was dating, because worst case scenario, I knew I could process and learn from any difficulties that arose once I had coaching. I cannot stress enough how much I have learned and gained from my work with Keriann, and if you’re considering working with her, I have to say it is worth it, and I would do it again in a heartbeat!!"
Helena:
"Dating in your 40s is a lot like traffic school--it's mostly a hassle, but it can also be downright painful. Either way, not something I'd wish upon anyone. Fortunately, Keriann was there to help me navigate through the dating process, and deal with the uncertainty and angst of a new relationship.
If you're having any doubts--whether you're just starting to date or you're already in an established relationship, just take the plunge and reach out to Keriann for a consultation.
She provided such valuable insights on my behaviors, but more importantly, she helped me with my tendency to cut and run anytime I started feeling uncomfortable or like I wasn't in control. I would never have overcome that habit, nor been able to get into a serious, committed relationship if it had not been for the sessions I had with Keriann."
ET:
"I contacted Keriann after approximately 3 years of previous frustrating dating experiences. I was interested to learn how to improve my outlook to continue and improve my chances of success. Not being in contact with other singles in my everyday life, I had been participating in online dating with very limited success.
Before working with Keriann, I had found the dating process to be overwhelmingly mystifying. It was difficult to understand the motivations and responses of the men I had dated. The lack of communication and unclear information that was forthcoming during dating was negatively affecting my self esteem and outlook towards the future.
With Keriann’s help, I was able to better define my relationship goals, diagnose and discuss actively with her the situations and results in real time. Now I am able to rationalize the dating experience in a more positive and healthy way. This has allowed me to switch from having emotional upsets when a relationship hadn’t worked, to a more holistic approach which supports my well-being. I am very grateful for her help and optimistic about the future of my dating life."
Lori:
"I wasn’t sure what to expect from working with a dating coach but I thought it was worth a try. After dating for a while, I’d become frustrated and needed some help in my approach to finding 'my person.'
In our sessions, Keriann helped me to:
- Identify specifically what I was looking for in a partner
- Understand why “settling,” even in the short term, may be limiting my options for long-term, successful connections
- Fine tune my dating profile to help attract the right people
- Practice real responses to real situations in a safe space.
Working with Keriann in private coaching sessions was definitely helpful and actually got me excited about dating again. I’m looking forward to putting my new knowledge to practice....one date at a time!"
1-on-1 coaching with me is
completely customized to your goals.
I specialize in helping people with an anxious attachment style feel more calm and secure as they explore a new relationship.
Because I have a background in trauma therapy, I also excel at helping trauma survivors navigate dating in a way that feels safe and good.
Have something different you would like support for?
You are always welcome to schedule a chat with me to see if I would be a good fit to help you.
1-on-1 coaching with me is completely customized to your goals.
I specialize in helping people with an anxious attachment style feel more calm and secure as they explore a new relationship.
Because I have a background in trauma therapy, I also excel at helping trauma survivors navigate dating in a way that feels safe and good.
Have something different you would like support for?
You are always welcome to schedule a chat with me to see if I would be a good fit to help you.
Your 1-on-1 Coaching Experience Includes:
Weekly 1-on-1
Coaching Sessions
Each week, we'll meet to talk about the challenges you are having in your relationship, and we will find solutions for them. You will learn new skills, understand more about yourself, and leave with actual steps you can take to feel more calm and secure in your relationship. Sessions are 50-minute video calls via Zoom.
Unlimited Text & Voice Messaging with Keriann
Have a question or thought come up between sessions?You don't have to wait until your next session, we can talk it through on Voxer!
All messages will get a response within 24 hours Monday-Friday (and often much faster than that).
Weekly
Between-Session
Assignments
(Optional)
Journal prompts, exercises to practice, and reading recommendations to help you take what you learn in your sessions even further.
Your Investment:
$1000/month
Start with one month,
continue on for as long as you like
Schedule your free consultation to see
if we are a fit for working together! 👇🏻
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